It is interesting to find out that so many people would ignore the situation when a woman is abusing a man. The reasons given are "he must have cheated on her", "he is physically stronger", "he looks guilty", etc.
These generalizations can be very wrong because abusing by women can cause severe consequences as well. Men can suffer emotionally, if not physically. It does seem to be a double standard that men should be punished for abusing women but not vice versa. It reminds me that one of my male friends told me that guys would try not to sit close to girls on the bus in order not to be suspicious of molest. Well, the physical differences make gender equality very difficult! As we appear different, there will always be a discussion on how to be "equal".
hey =) I find this a very thought provoking video! It was interesting to see the bystander effect taking place, but more so if the victim was a man rather than a woman. I guess there really is a double standard.
回复删除Anyway, while watching the video, I was just wondering about what makes those who stepped in and those who didnt different? Maybe their thought processes were different. In the sense that the women were in a group and they talked about the abuse going on and finally someone decided to step in. Or maybe it was because they were in close proximity as they were sitting nearby instead of just passing by that made them more obliged to step in?
- Hui Jun
Don't read too much. When man and women fight, as long as the man is not drugged or seriously injured, the man is never helpless and is able to save himself when things get out of hand. Not so for a women that is being attacked by man. A woman will be rather helpless when a man turns violent.
回复删除In addition, the society always sees man as stronger species. Passerbys would not have the reason to protect someone who is stronger in a fight.
In all, you do not need to help a man who is attacked by a women. :}
Interesting video!
回复删除I agree with steward that a guy is never totally helpless unless there are other factors involved. Like what one of the ladies interviewed said, "I didn't immediately think to protect the man at all". Since men are generally physically stronger than women, it does not seem like the man was seriously being harmed. This was probably why most people did not stop to help.
I guess it is also because males are associated to aggression more than females causing people to feel that if a female is hitting a man, he "deserves it".
I look up to the group of ladies who stood up for the man in the end. Although I do not agree that its okay for the woman to hit the man, I cannot say that I would have done the same as those ladies.